John Jantsch is a marketing consultant, speaker, and author of Duct Tape Marketing, The Referral Engine, Duct Tape Selling, The Commitment Engine, and SEO for Growth. His newest work, The Self-Reliant Entrepreneur: 366 Daily Meditations to Feed Your Soul and Grow Your Business taps into the wisdom of 19th-century transcendentalist literature and the author’s own 30-year entrepreneurial journey to challenge today’s entrepreneur to remain fiercely self-reliant while chasing their own version of success.
History has a somewhat predictable way of repeating itself. The literature found in The Self-Reliant Entrepreneur was penned during a time when the fabric of America was unraveling and people were finally becoming fed up enough to take action on things like women’s rights, slavery, and religious oppression.
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This crisis culminated in the waging of the American Civil War. The current societal and political divide resembles that of the mid-nineteenth century and it’s time for a new generation of artists and entrepreneurs (regardless of current age) to emerge to help reshape unity and consensus before it’s too late.
Now, let me talk to you about How To Be More Self-Reliant!
What is Self-reliance?
Self-reliance is exactly what it sounds like, plus a lot more. Because of its implications for happiness, self-reliance has a major theoretical significance in positive psychology. There will almost certainly be some overlap, or at the very least possible consequences for self-worth, self-expression, self-knowledge, resilience, and self-acceptance.
As a result, it’s not necessary to do everything yourself. It’s also not about becoming financially self-sufficient. And it’s absolutely not about bearing the brunt of your problems on your own. In this post, we’ll look at what it means to be self-reliant and how we might develop it in ourselves.
When you’re self-reliant, you take responsibility for your decisions and take steps to satisfy your obligations. Try to imagine your finances as completely under your control, for example. Refrain from overspending or approaching those who will most likely offer you help.
Also, be the one to make things right when things don’t go as planned. Rather than rushing to others to clean up the mess, do this. While accepting responsibility may not seem appealing, it is immensely empowering and can boost your self-esteem.
Look After Yourself
While you should never expect to be your own doctor and should always seek medical assistance if you have any concerns about your health, you should strive to take care of your body to reduce the need for treatment and medication.
Work out on a daily basis and eat mostly nutritious foods. Make an effort to keep knowledgeable on diseases that you may be at risk of contracting (whether genetic or environmental reasons). All of these behaviors will increase your self-assurance in relying on your body. It will make you feel more at ease with the concept of self-reliance in general.
Improve Your Practical Skills
The more practical talents you have in your toolkit, the less helpless you will feel and the less likely you will require others to come to your rescue. While you should feel free to hire professionals to assist you with complex household issues and technical issues, it’s ideal if you can at least do the fundamentals yourself.
Purchase some books or enroll in some classes. Make an effort to improve your knowledge in everything from plumbing to IT, electronics, and food.
Accept Your Feelings
When you push your feelings aside or repress them, you may find yourself using your interpersonal dynamics to work through problems or express dissatisfaction. Instead, learn to be more self-reliant by becoming more aware of your emotions.
Keep a diary notebook, for example, where you write at least half a page about your emotional experiences and the things that triggered them. Improving your ability to sit with painful or difficult feelings is another crucial part of emotional self-reliance. Mindfulness activities can assist you in this area because they improve your mind’s ability to observe without judgment.
Make the choices
Self-reliance, on the other hand, entails being in charge of your own destiny, whether it feels good or unpleasant. The benefit of committing to making your own decisions is that you have final control over your life’s path. The more difficult element of the process is that allowing others to make decisions for you might feel quite reassuring.
If you have a hard time making decisions, start with simple ones. Like the restaurant you want to go to on your birthday and work your way up to bigger ones such as vacation destinations or career paths.
Deal with negative feelings
After you’ve enhanced your ability to feel, experience, and name your emotions, you may boost your self-confidence even more by figuring out new strategies to deal with negative emotions. You can learn to employ the mature protective mechanism of sublimation instead of taking your anger out on other people, for example.
In other words, you can channel your rage or aggravation into a physical activity such as running, painting, or participating in a competitive team sport. You become a lot more self-reliant when it comes to regulating your emotions if you have such an activity to fall back on.
Acceptance and Worth
Finally, any significant tendency to measure your worth or access in comparison to others may hinder your self-reliance. Instead of being unable to see oneself positively unless you can prove you’re “better” than the average. You can start searching internally for acceptance and worth.
Make a list of at least 20 positive characteristics about yourself. Then post it somewhere where you can see it. These reasons will assist you in realizing that you are lovable, talented, distinctive, and valuable. They should also make you think twice about relying on comparisons to boost your self-esteem.
Self-reliance is a lovely trait that everyone should strive towards. It enables you to accept your own beliefs and form healthy habits. And while having people in your life is important, being fully reliant on them is not. If you’ve recently experienced a difficult breakup or simply need to reconsider certain life decisions. Hopefully, the following steps will assist you in achieving the independence you desire.